On people against feminism

dearcoquette:

What do you think about all the people who don’t understand feminism? Especially the women who supposedly “are against feminism because they don’t hate men”? Should we argue or is it a lost cause?


No, we shouldn’t argue. We should teach. We should enlighten. We should in the friendliest of spirits and without the slightest trace of condescension drop so much fucking knowledge on those people that it crushes their flawed and simplistic understanding of gender politics.

We should be patient in the face of ignorance until we know for sure that it is willful. We should give them every opportunity to change their minds, because at the end of the day, very few people are built around a core of malignant, incurable misogyny. Very few people have a world view so grotesque that they actually believe women should be subjugated. Very few people will openly admit that equality isn’t a noble pursuit — especially women for whom so often their only fault is being misguided about the fundamental concepts.

No one is a lost cause until we find out for sure that their identity is tied to an aggressively misogynistic belief system, and when we come across those broken souls, we don’t argue. That’s wasted breath. We simply mark them with red flags and keep them at arm’s length, because those are the ones who aren’t safe to be around.

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if every music festival banned headdresses i would sob for hours out of happiness

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hylianears:

micdotcom:

Canadian music festival takes huge step against Native appropriation

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From their announcement:

For various reasons, Bass Coast Festival is banning feathered war bonnets, or anything resembling them, onsite. Our security team will be enforcing this policy.

We understand why people are attracted to war bonnets. They have a magnificent aesthetic. But their spiritual, cultural and aesthetic significance cannot be separated.

Bass Coast Festival takes place on indigenous land and we respect the dignity of aboriginal people. We have consulted with aboriginal people in British Columbia on this issue and we feel our policy aligns with their views and wishes regarding the subject. Their opinion is what matters to us.


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itsalwayssummahsomewhere:

Selfie central

gothicpup:

you can claim that “vanilla” normative sex is about mutual respect and that bdsm is not all you want.. but i can assure you there is almost always a hint (understatement) of dominance and submissiveness even in the most mundane of sex acts. adding some bondage or spanking to sex isn’t glorifying abuse.

bdsm is a practice within a healthy relationship where you choose and consent to give up control to that other person. it is completely and utterly about trusting. establishing limits and safewords, respecting your partner’s bodies all within the realm of the established limits. bdsm entails a lot of communication, questions, and emotional care and aftercare.

bdsm is harmful when it is pervasively enforced as the norm, that women are to internalize misogyny, disrespect, or perform acts against their wishes in order to be sexually “healthy.” that “vanilla” sex is plain, boring, undesirable and that a woman is less-than for not submitting themselves to men. the porn industry exploits women into doing extreme, hardcore sex acts that men often internalize and bring into their sex life.

bdsm is about trust and mutual respect. exploitation in the porn industry and media, like 50 shades of grey, is not.

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"Claiming there is no other life in the universe is like scooping up some water, looking at the cup and claiming there are no whales in the ocean."
Neil deGrasse Tyson in response to “Aliens can’t exist because we haven’t found them yet” (via we-are-star-stuff)

(Source: unusual-entities)


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Anonymous: What's the reason you don't like 50 shades?

stupidstagram:

hentai-ass:

stupidstagram:

horrible aggressive misogyny and the romanticization of domestic violence and sexual torture aren’t some of my favorite things and young girls picking up that book or watching that movie being left wondering if that’s what relationships are supposed to be REALLY makes me angry. 

this man takes a young woman who is less powerful, less experienced and not entirely confident about the area of life he’s leading her into and then starts doing horrible sexual things to her, he removes her boundaries and normalizes the violence against her

50 shades of grey reinforces and perpetuates the disgusting lie that women LIKE and WANT to be hurt and that you can heal a broken man if you just love him enough and do all the things he wants you to do bc eventually he won’t want to hurt you anymore 

he goes from a sexually violent predator to prince charming and it’s gross and offensive and nobody should support it no matter how cute the guy playing him is. 

I’d like to keep in mind the author of the original was in-fact a female and she managed to do all that lel

hah yea so funny it’s almost like … women… are taught… that this is the type of relationship we should want… in real life…… a real life woman wrote this??? hA but it’s just a book/movie right .. .ha 

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